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When You Need to Let Go

Posted on November 15, 2016 at 11:40 PM

Something happened to me recently that you may have also experienced.  Recently I had a falling out with a friend. I’m still shocked by this as I didn’t see it coming AT ALL!

I have gone through a myriad of emotions: shock, hurt, sadness, disappointment, and anger and yet still love. I really don’t know what happened. One moment we were laughing and having a good time, the next moment I was being told she never wanted to do anything with me again.

I’ve tried to extend an olive branch. I’ve tried to keep the lines of communication open but each time, I feel like my outstretched hand is being slapped. So I have decided to leave it open. I will not go back and try again. This is really foreign for me as I am a peace-maker. I HATE conflict. I want love, peace and Kumbaya moments.

What I realize though is that sometimes when you care deeply for someone you need to let them go through things and experience their journey on their own. For some reason this is one of those times when I am being shown by the Universe to back off. I cannot make this right. I cannot ‘fix’ whatever is going on. My friend needs time to heal from whatever is going on, and apparently my being around is like pouring salt on that wound. So I will move away from it.

Moving away from the situation doesn’t mean that I will not continue to send love to the situation though. I will send love to my friend and will also continue to Ho’oponopono the situation.

Ho’oponopono is an ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness. Very simply it’s the belief that everything is energy so all energy can be affected by love and forgiveness. So for whatever is going on, this Ho'oponopono phrase can help: I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.

So, if you ever find yourself in a similar situation, try giving space and Ho’oponopono the situation.

Kim McAllister, North Carolina USA :)


Categories: Spirituality, Kindness, Love

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3:17 AM on May 27, 2017 
Wow! Thank you, Kim, for sharing this personal story and perspective. Forgive my own delay in posting a response. Mea Culpa! I recall reading this post at the time but failed to comment then. So I'm making up for lost time. What you shared of a falling out with a friend is an experience I think we've all been through at some point, including the range of emotions that comes with it. Sometimes we're just blindsided and that's the hardest. You have described what that feels like and I think we can all relate. "Ouch!" There's always a certain amount of confusion, shock and sorrow that comes with these kinds of experiences and your emotional reaction rings true. We've all had that kind of experience, too. You just put words to it and in so doing, help us all know that this kind of thing happens to even the best of us, despite our best intentions. Sometimes, things happen. Stuff breaks.Not anybody's fault. But when it does happen, the gentle waves of time are perhaps the best solace. I also appreciate you sharing Ho?oponopono, the ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness. Your blog post is a wonderful and fearless example of what great writing is all about: t's both personal and universal, something that happens to all of us and a way to put those times in perspective, too. I'm glad I reread this post. I was surprised at its unexpected depth. Thank you for writing with such fearless honesty. I'm deeply grateful. You are a talented writer! What you wrote is helpful and healing, too! Bravo!